Want to avoid repeating the same dating mistakes? Date according to your personality type

Before we start: yes, you can date and be happy with someone, regardless of their zodiac sign or personality type. But some combinations may feel a little more effortless than others, especially at the beginning. Find out what these are, what dating mistakes you should avoid and how to date your ideal personality type.

What are personality types?

If you have already dealt with questionnaires or self-tests in your life, you may be familiar with the Myers-Briggs test or the Myers-Briggs type indicators. By evaluating 88 questions, different personality types are categorised—a further development of Carl Jung’s psychological types. While the internet loves this convenient assessment tool, it has also been criticised because the indicators are not based on scientifically sound findings. Self-perception and external perception can sometimes be quite different and lead to distortions.

But what can the test do? It can help you understand your personality better and see yourself in a new light. Don’t rely on your results a 100%, but see it as an aid in everyday life. You can easily take this test on the official website.

These personality types fit together best

Your personality type consists of four letters: The first stands for Extroversion (E) or Introversion (I), the second for Intuition (N) or Sensing (S), the third for Thinking (T) or Feeling (F) and the last for Judging (J) or Perceiving (P). The individual letters make it easy to see whether the people fit together.

Opposite people are best matched. Extroverts take introverts out of their comfort zone while introverts bring them down to earth.

These two characteristics describe how someone perceives the world and processes information. Of course, it’s more helpful if two people understand the world in the same way. This means there are fewer misunderstandings, and it is generally easier to communicate with and understand each other.

Whether you are more rational or emotional should not have a major influence on compatibility. There are some advantages and some disadvantages to thinking the same way or thinking differently.

Here again, opposites don’t necessarily attract, but at least complement each other. The perceiving person helps the other feel freer and not stick so closely to their principles, and the judging person helps the other put plans in place and meet deadlines.

How to avoid dating mistakes and date according to your personality type

How do the personalities behave in love? What obstacles do they encounter? And what dating mistakes should they avoid? Find out here:

The Architect personality type is rather calculating and reserved in love. They don’t make exuberant declarations of love. They can quickly be seen as cold, which is off-putting. Since the Architect can also feel very deeply, it is best to build on authenticity when it comes to relationships.

As the name might suggest, the Logician approaches love rationally but not without a philosophical perspective. Deep bonds are particularly important to them, although they tend to look at the facts rather than let their feelings guide them. Love can quickly lose its passion. Boundaries are important, but the Logician could communicate their wishes and goals better and respond to their counterpart.

Commanders always see a straight path to the heart and are particularly direct when it comes to love. They communicate freely and say what they want. However, they could be a little more sensitive about some topics that others might not want to confont head on.

ENTP people have a particularly infectious energy and can have a lot of fun when dating. However, they often have a temper and don’t understand when someone either doesn’t want to argue with them or can’t argue properly. Remember that not every conversation has to be a discussion.

With a particularly calm and balanced personality, Advocates don’t have a hard time in love once they finally dare to approach their crush. The only thing they need to remember is that they are easily taken advantage of because they take unconditional love a little too literally.

Moody Mediators love with all their heart, and when you open up to them, you realise how serious they are about love. However, they find it difficult to recognise and express their needs, and could do with some quiet moments and reflection.

The extroverted protagonist builds love with an ease and certainty that makes them incredibly attractive. Their own love and its expressions are incredibly important to them, but they often forget the feelings of others. As an empathic personality, the Protagonist simply needs to take a little more time to understand the other person.

Activists always have a large group of friends around them and probably also multiple lovers. They are very spontaneous in love and are prone to having one-night stands, but if they want to find true love, they should take things a little slower.

Practical logisticians are deeply loyal and love with all their soul. However, they open their hearts only after some time and are therefore thought of as cold and dismissive. Since Logisticians are bad at showing their emotions, they should try using words.

Defenders never rush into love without thinking, but they need time to slowly grow into a relationship. Once they open up, they show their true personality. They value one connection in particular and rely on it, but this can also lead to codependency. Defenders should pay particular attention to their self-worth when entering into relationships.

Love plays a central role in the life of the Executive. They like to build their entire life around the possibility of a relationship alone. But love is not a building block, and sometimes things don’t turn out like you planned. The Executive has to face up to the fact that they simply can’t—and shouldn’t want to—change people with their love.

The Consul lives for the love of others and seeks harmony in all things. Their love is incredibly strong, and they will probably never even look past one person when they are in a relationship. However, such a deep connection can lead to addiction. Sometimes, you have to prioritise yourself over the love of others.

The independent virtuoso loves their freedom and steers clear of oppressive relationships. They find love with a person who has the same passions as them. When they feel constricted, they prefer to flee rather than risk confrontation. They need to remember that an argument doesn’t always mean the end of a relationship.

Charming Adventurers like to lose themselves in their passions—even if that passion is a person. However, they don’t like to impose their feelings on the other person and would rather say nothing than be embarrassed. But this always results in missed opportunities that could have led them to the love of their life.

Responsibility? No, thank you. Entrepreneurs see love as a recreational sport and are happy to indulge in shared joy, but they are not so serious about their feelings. However, an honest conversation about boundaries and emotions could have a positive effect on love—at least if the Entrepreneur is looking for a long-term relationship.

The Entertainer finds it particularly easy to get new relationships and lovers. With their charm and ease, people simply feel comfortable around them. But they should remember that although life is a stage, love doesn’t have to be a performance. With the right person, you can just let yourself go.

This article fist appeared on Glamour.de